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In part 1 of this article, we have discussed some issues that you need to keep in mind when going along with a depressed relative. We will continue the discussion about the left issues here below.
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6. People do not always want to experience depression alone
Many people think that depressed people just want to be alone. Although there are times when they want to have their own space, this does not mean that they want to be alone in the face of their insecurities. Ask them to drive them to somewhere. Ask if they want a cup of coffee or a delicious meal. The times you can pull them out of their daily lives and the two people can connect are usually very meaningful to them. Come to them without notice. Remind them that they do not have to go through this alone.
7. Schedule to spend time with them
Ask them to go exercising, shopping or somewhere else together once or twice a week. Ask them if you can cook with them. One of the hardest things in a depression episode is to feel so tired to be able to cook good meals, so it's really helpful if you can cook something they can put in the fridge to eat several times latter on.
8. Ask them how they feel
Ask how they are really feeling and how they are coping with their depression. Depressed people often think of suicide, and asking them how they care for themselves is completely suitable. Likewise, talk with them about safety measures in cases where their depression becomes overwhelming.
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9. Do not satisfy every request of depressed people
Just because someone is struggling with depression does not mean you have to satisfy all their needs or always have to control strictly all your words, your voice or behaviors when you were around them. Depressed people need to feel loved and supported but if things start to make a negative impact on your life then you have the right to admit it and find ways to continue your support without sacrificing yourself.
10. Talking frankly and identifying clear boundaries is important
In times of crisis, it is important to take a step back and see what you can do to continue your help for the depressed person, while still maintaini
ng good things in your life. Be patient. Talk to them about your concerns and explain the boundaries you need in your relationship. Find ways to get along well with both of you.11. Do not blame yourself
When you have a family member, relative or friend suffering from depression, it can be difficult to understand what they have to experience this, and how your relationship may negatively affect their mood, their sadness. If they need their own space or keep distance, do not blame yourself and wonder if you should behave differently to improve relationship. Please understand that their depression is not your fault.
12. Extreme demands do not help
Telling someone that you will break up with them or will not talk to them anymore if they are not better is not a miracle measure to help them to recover. They will not be able to suddenly become the person you want them to become just because you are tired of their problems. Deciding to leave someone if their problems become overwhelming for you and the relationship of two people is a personal choice of each individual; but if you think that setting the extreme choice scenario will help them to get out of depression is unrealistic and unfair.
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